I was helped by strangers and to thank them, they asked me to do the same when and where I can to others and I should also ask those that I have helped to be ready to help others. This is the only way we can help ourselves and our next generations. Remember, “what goes around comes back around”. You cannot help others without helping yourself directly or indirectly. Helping is an investment that goes a long way to be benefited by those who will be carrying your name. Its returns doesn’t have to come directly from people you personally help, but from people who were being helped by you.

So stop expecting people to bring back your help. They don’t owe you, except if they borrowed from you, but if they asked for help, remember you were once helped, let it go. Stop reminding people that they are who /what they are because of your help, let it go. RP Ntema

“Choose a leader who will invest in building bridges, not walls. Books, not weapons. Morality, not corruption. Intellectualism and wisdom, not ignorance. Stability, not fear and terror. Peace, not chaos. Love, not hate. Convergence, not segregation. Tolerance, not discrimination. Fairness, not hypocrisy. Substance, not superficiality. Character, not immaturity. Transparency, not secrecy. Justice, not lawlessness. Environmental improvement and preservation, not destruction. Truth, not lies.”

Most of people are trapped in their marriages, because they thought all serious relationships should end with a marriage as the trophy to take home as a sign of victory. They can’t walk away, because they don’t want to be seen as failures. Day in, day out, many are crying and no one is listening, because they were told marriage is difficult, they should be patient, but no one told them that it should also help them to develop, progress and grow and not just difficult without any reward. RP Ntema

Most women tend to claim that they are “submissive and independent”. The truth of the matter is that, you can never be submissive and still be independent. The two contradict each other. Being submissive, you are under authority, but being independent you are not subjected to anyone’s authority. One more thing, you cannot say you are independent, if you are in a relationship that influences your behavior in a certain way. Being successful career wise, and being able to do things for yourself doesn’t mean independence. RP Ntema.